I believe the purpose of life is to enjoy being who we are; to love and be loved, and to use our talents to fulfil our needs and satisfy our desires. And for this we need to keep growing our self-awareness and stretching our potential. I created the Red Couch as a place to review, revise and renew. My work in coaching, counselling and facilitating workshops, is all about relationship– our relationship to self, being in relationship with our partner, and our relations with others. At the Alma Practice in South Kensington, and in Lewes, I work with individuals and with couples to better understand emotions and behaviour, to work through difficult issues and to build more resilient, healthier, happier relationships.
A qualified counsellor, coach and facilitator, I trained at the Australian College of Applied Psychology in Sydney, and at Ashridge Business School in the UK. I am a member of the Association for Coaching, the British Association for Counselling and Pyschotherapy, and the BACP’s Coaching division. My professional development includes Systemic Constellations, and also using this approach for working with couples. I’m trained in Harville Hendrix’ Imago Therapy model and I regularly attend training workshops for working with couples with Dr David Schnarch.
My personal story began in the UK in 1957. I spent my teenage years with my family living in Indonesia, and then settled in Sydney, Australia and worked in film and television. Personal development has been important throughout my life, among several programmes, I did the Hoffman Process. I married and had a two daughters and loved family life, but the marriage was difficult. We sought help from several counsellors – sadly little was useful or supportive (although valuable now to have had this experience). Lacking the self-awareness and skills to stay married, we divorced after 20 years. We did manage the process of separating well, and he and I continue to have a supportive relationship. We were able process the loss, reflect and learn from our history, and each of us found new love.
In 2007 I returned to England to begin a new life with a wonderful man who is a musician and a business consultant. We married in 2012. Between us we have seven adult children and six grandchildren, so the meaning of family has become very wide, and very multi-cultural, as partners join and we spread over many countries.
I am so grateful for the deeply satisfying, growthful relationship with my husband, and I feel passionately that my work is to share what I know and continue learn – to help others to love well.