Do you recognise patterns and behaviours you want to change?
Are you lacking confidence in some areas of your life?
Do you want more satisfaction in your relationships?
Paying positive attention to yourself, and exploring your changing circumstances and needs is a powerful process for growth. You may be working towards clear goals or at a life stage where you are hankering for something new, and life coaching could support your process. You may be experiencing distress or in a period of change, and need solid, caring support, when counselling can really help.
Working on yourself is an invitiaton to explore, to find clearer direction and a stronger sense of self. It can enliven your curiosity, build your resilience, deepen your understanding and support you to live with more integrity, satisfaction and joy.
Healthy, satisfying relationships don’t ‘just happen’. They require ongoing attention and nurturing. All couples experience difficulties, and if resolved well, these episodes can be growthful and healing, deepening friendship, trust and intimacy.
Problems that are not faced or explored, or able to be resolved will cause more more difficulty as couples distance themselves, and disconnect from each other.
Long term relationships are not for the faint-hearted. We need to be be able to keep our balance when our partner loses theirs. We need to face our shadows and demons, be willing to challenge ourselves and be prepared to grow up. The good news is that a committed relationship is an ideal opportunity to do this.
When you know better, you do better
– Maya Angelou
Relationship Counselling to suit to you
Seeking relationship counselling is an important step, and many people leave it a long time before they look for help. Getting good support for your most important relationship is a positive move, early attention can mean a rapid shift away from unhealthy dynamics. Ignoring difficulties doesn’t make them go away.
Sometimes one partner is willing to embrace counselling, but not the other. In this case individual counselling can be valuable. Many people believe that it ‘takes two to tango’ – or to change the relationship. But Lilliana says it takes two people to keep things the same. When one partner take steps to understand their own emotional triggers and behaviours in a new way, this alters the dynamics of the couple, and things begin to change.
What are the benefits of couples counselling?
It is generally accepted that the joy that a happy relationship brings underpins robust mental and physical well being. Good relationships equate with living longer, healthier lives, as well as being much more rewarding and pleasurable. Lilliana knows that all relationships go through challenging periods, so if you’re experiencing difficulties within yours, she can help you gain a clearer perspective, communicate better with each another and develop a set of skills to improve the quality of your partnership.
Lilliana works with couples who are married, living together, in a civil partnership or same sex marriage, in fact any close relationship.
Learning from Relationship Counselling
Relationship counselling will enable you both to make positive changes that you may not be able to achieve on your own. Lilliana offers a safe, non judgemental and supportive environment for you to identify and communicate your issues and feelings. She’ll help you to understand the behaviours that may be preventing you from being fulfilled in your relationship. Working together will facilitate positive change including how to:
- Communicate more effectively
- State your needs to one another clearly and openly
- Express, disclose and resolve painful emotions
- Take more emotional self responsibility
- Talk openly about sexual desires and disparities
- Work through unresolved issues
- Resolve conflict in healthy, respectful and productive ways
- Adopt the skills necessary for change within your relationship
Lilliana sees clients in Lewes, East Sussex and in South Kensington, London. Lilliana also runs Couple Workshops for small groups, and
she offers couple intensives, and works with people further afield by phone and on Skype.
for people who want more
from life… and from themselves.
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For better relationships – with yourself, others and your partner